Interesting bits from the paper
Managing Impressions Online:Self-Presentation Processes in the Online Dating Environment
In the section Self-Presentation and Self-Disclosure in Online and
Offline Contexts
Therefore, if participants aspire to an intimate relationship, their
desire to feel understood by their interaction partners will
motivate self-disclosures that are open and honest as opposed to
deceptive. This tension between authenticity and impression
management is inherent in many aspects of self-disclosure.
In section The Importance of Small Cues
For instance, one participant said she looked for profiles that were
well-written, because "I just think if they can't spell or" formulate
sentences, I would imagine that they're not that educated." Because
writing ability was perceived to be a cue that was "given off" or not
as controllable, participants noticed misspelled words in profiles,
interpreting them as evidence of lack of interest or education. As
one female participant put it, "If I am getting email from someone
that obviously can't spell or put a full sentence together, I'm
thinking what other parts of his life suffer from the same lack of
attentiveness?"
This is something I completely agree with. I form an opinin of people
based on how they write their emails. Emails with too much slag or
sms-lingo turn me off.
In section Theoretical Implications
Additionally, our interview data suggest that online representations
of one's ideal self — when combined with the increased
accountability engendered by an anticipated face-to-face interaction may serve as a tool to enable individuals to minimize the
discrepancy between their actual and their ideal selves.
An example of this is
In another case, a woman who misrepresented her weight online used
an upcoming meeting as incentive to minimize the discrepancy between
her actual self and the ideal self articulated in her profile: *
I've lost 44 pounds since I've started [online dating], and I mean,
that's one of the reasons I lost the weight so I can thank online
dating for that. [Because] the first guy that hit on me, I checked
my profile and I had lied a little bit about the pounds, so I
thought I had better start losing some weight so that it would be
more honest. That was in December, and I've lost every week since
then. (MaryMoon, Los Angeles Female)*